I’m going to start out with a disclaimer: Every person- and consequently every situation- is different. I am going off of my experience and some discussions with my Japanese friends and friends who have lengthy experience with the culture.I’m sure people can find exceptions to what I am putting forth as general rules. Additionally, I am a man, so all of my understanding comes from the perspective of a man.Right after, you won't feel single any more, because you will be chatting, flirting and maybe even dating with single strangers.
But it draws parallels with Japan’s now mostly defunct omiai arranged marriage tradition, in which parents suggested partners for their adult children.
When I moved to Japan about five years ago, I quickly realized that finding love in this country was not going to be an easy task.
I could sometimes detect a flicker of interest, at most, before they ran away. From what I gathered from my Japanese girlfriends, it seemed to involve a lot of passiveness, indirect communication, text messaging, misunderstandings and patience.
After wasting months subtly pursuing a guy at work only to discover he had a girlfriend, I quit the Japanese way – and bento making, also described by my friends as a boyfriend magnet in Japan.
Japanese actress Maki Horikita married co-star Koji Yamamoto in 2015 after just a month of dating. Magazine last month compared hunting for a marriage partner with suicide.