Initially your chat name is your entire online personality.
Starting a conversation When you first join a room, take a few minutes to sit back and see what the general topic of conversation is.
Other chatters involved in conversations are not going to stop and want you to get involved if all you do is jump into a chat room and say something like, "Hi, anyone want to chat? Gauge the feeling of the different personalities in the chat room, make comments or chat about the current subject being discussed and you are far more likely to be welcomed into the conversation making the rooms more pleasant for everyone.
When I challenged him, he was embarrassed and then defensive saying it was just harmless flirting and that he had not gone over any line.
I still feel really unhappy about what he has done.
Some police forces are trained to watch for this very mistake when interrogating criminals.