Personally, I think it will take me a lifetime to become healthy enough to be trusted with another person’s love and attention.
So we’ve all heard on numerous occasions the suggestion in the rooms that unless you’re already in a relationship when entering recovery, you shouldn’t get into one in the first year. How often do we hear about people finding the love of their lives in a meeting within the first month off the booze? And how often do we hear of people going back out because the love of their life turned out to be a slightly psychotic stalker type and not the loving spiritual being they’d imagined? The barroom drama of screwing around, jealousy and sexual competitiveness does not magically disappear when people quit drinking or using or both.
If you want to witness some of the most twisted relationship encounters, you need go no further than the rooms of recovery…of any kind.
There are many factors to take into account when jumping into the dating game in recovery, and we encourage you to both investigate what feels right to you and work with somebody who knows you well.
We can offer suggestions and guidelines, but ultimately you’re an individual with your own set of needs, experiences, and perspective.
The profile section of the app even includes a sobriety date and a place to briefly admit your substance abuse struggles.