It’s a well known fact that every single woman drops at least 10 pounds the minute she becomes recently separated. She gets upset and is unable to eat frequently, she’s stressed about the unknown, the attorney fees, and how her kids are doing. Most people would say they feel confident, sexy, that they love the feeling of their clothes practically falling off of them. ’ I looked in the mirror one day and I felt really, really old and tired. I didn’t feel like I was attractive on the inside or outside. I was a stay at home mom: I hadn’t had a job in 6 years.
She’s busy, or she might have just started working again. And lastly, the recently separated woman is dating again. Most would say they see themselves as being more attractive, right? But, let me take you into the mind of the recently separated 40 something woman. I had zero self esteem when it came to my professional ability, and figured the only skills I had now were diaper changing, bottle feeding and house cleaning.
Sure, I’ve had my share of breakups that were hard to get through. When you go through a divorce a big part of who you were before changes.
Her husband left her for another woman even though they have a two year old daughter.
She was married right out of college and the marriage lasted four years. When I called her to ask if there was anything I could do, she invited me over. We had sex over the course of several weeks and then abruptly she was "unavailable" every time I called or went over. From a woman's point of view please tell me what is going on here.
Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.
Or, maybe you are the one who wants out of the marriage.
If you are in the dating scene and thinking about dating a divorced woman, it’s important that you know what you are looking for, though this can be a difficult task for many.