Help him, guide him and create an environment for him where he has a chance to find his own parenting skills.
The truth of the matter is, women with kids can date whoever they want, whenever they want. Yes, we know they are the biggest part of your life and one day they will be the final factor in whether or not your relationship will work or not. Let him grow into his own thoughts and give him a chance to decide if this is a step he wants to take. Encourage him to keep his routine, his hobbies, his passions etc. If he’s one to shy away from change and you’re coming in and changing his lifestyle, he may stop giving the relationship an honest try. Even though it may be hard, try to avoid talking too much about them in the beginning, try to not share too many details of the parenting decisions you are constantly making on a regular basis and try to avoid asking for help in the beginning. You’ve been at it a while most likely, or you’ve already established your parenting techniques, methods and routines.
If you’re a woman just starting to date a guy without kids, here are a few pieces of advice to help you navigate the new relationship. Don’t distance yourself but be open to answering questions and giving him a helpful platform to understand what it all means. When you’re further down the line he will WANT to help you and your kids, but let him get there on his own. He has not needed to acquire those skills yet, so he will need to learn.
Ultimately, failure to put their partner first was a sign these guys were not ready for a serious relationship, or at least not with those particular women, and that is totally normal.
But it’s not cool to pay lip service to intentions of growing a serious, long-term relationship and from the onset demote your lover to second-rank — even before you message her on
I am a strong advocate of single mother’s dating single dad’s. You can’t bring two completely different families together and expect perfect harmony without the kids already knowing each other well.