When you join a dating website, there are many different branches of opportunity, and if you don’t do your research right you might end up falling into the wrong category.
I’m not one of those people who says, “He or she should have gotten separated before beginning a relationship.” I also don’t say, “It’s OK to cheat.” In your heart, I think you know what the right thing to do is.
Whether you stay or leave, you just have to find the guts to go with the decision you think is the right one.
So, the innocent one either walks away broken hearted, or they compromise and continue to see the person because they’re already too emotionally attached and invested. You didn’t join an online dating site because you were bored. You needed validation that you were desirable, that someone would want to love you the way you deserve to be loved. Because if you go into a candy store, chances are you will come out of it with a purchase, right? First of all, I am going to assume he isn’t married, but I don’t know that for sure. You are asking me if you should stay with your husband or be with this new guy, and my answer is, your decision shouldn’t be based on whether or not you have a boyfriend. You either want your marriage to work or you don’t think it can. This boyfriend guy shouldn’t be in the mix, only in the sense that he gave you a taste of the notion that it is possible to meet someone else at this stage in your life.
So, they rationalize and tell themselves whatever they need to tell themselves to make the other person seem like their soul mate, when in reality, the relationship started off with lies and deceit. You joined because you mentally checked out of your marriage (I can understand why, based on your email). If he is married, I’ve got all kinds of other issues. I think that men and women are on their best behavior and most infatuated at the beginning of a relationship—especially one where the time you spend together is so limited. I hope I wasn’t too hard on you, or that I sound judgmental.
Over the course of our marriage, I've seen her interest in sex decline gradually to the point where she doesn't even have an interest anymore.