Should I just write all affectedly in my goth diary? But if you’re just going to stand around and watch, well, then you’re an added dead weight that we’re metaphorically carrying. If you’re going to help, by all means, you’re more than welcome as long as you don’t break anything.
Or if the show is way across town and your only ride is with the band.
If you are attending a sound check as an event, turn back now. Most likely, you’re really cool and a great person to hang out with for days on end which is why our bandmate is dating you. And do you really want to be trapped in a van with a bunch of people who haven’t showered and who keep cracking the window because they farted after eating dinner at a gas station? You don’t Do not, under any circumstances, except for certain circumstances, discourage your partner from being in their band.
He was an amateur MMA fighter, came from the hood — apparently a former gang member, as I learned later. We’re the dirty little secrets who get calls only after hours.
It wasn’t that he necessarily made me feel threatened, but I knew the statistics. No matter how beautiful, intelligent, or successful, we are the ones who have to settle for being nothing more than receptacles for men’s desires and insecurities. “I’m a transgender woman.” I emphasized the woman part.
For example, these people might argue that being attracted to only women with vaginas in no way negatively affects trans people.